October 31, 2025

Happy Friday!

If you are dating keep the relationship simple. There is a big chance it may not be a long term relationship. Dating is a beautiful stage because maybe you want to know more about that person. A long time ago if a man liked a woman he spoke and had dinner with her father. If the father approved or liked the guy they made arrangements and it was the okay to date his daughter. But today you may not have your father available to help or if the relationship is strained its a different kind of dating. You need to date with the attitude of lightness. A friend is not a husband. As you get to know him keep in mind that he is not officially at the end of pursing you. Let him earn more of you. He has no rights to you until its what God tells you it should be. Sometimes you might learn some unflattering things about the man or women and you might have to abruptly end the dating situation. It's okay to do that to ensure you keep yourself from being hurt and wounded. Keep the relationship simple. I dated a guy and he would get upset because I set boundaries. We phone talked for 3 months. We talked so long I forgot what he looked like. So we laughed 😂 and met in person. It was sparks but right away he wanted to tell me what to do....... things such as who I could be friends with. Am I wrong? Lol 😂. The problem was.... we never had a frist date. But I felt he should get to know me and at least meet my friends. You cant make decisions for someone you dont know. I told him, "let's date first." Let me get to know you. I believe a man should be in charge but lets be friends. Let me get to know you. Sometimes woman want all a man's money thats unhealthy. Getting to know someone is free. If you want to learn his status thats different. And you cant tell a woman your not married to what to do. But control the dates take charge of the dating. With my friend he wanted to change my friends and have a very unhealthy control right away. His intentions were good but I continue to remind him that we just met and that was beyond our relationship but he was welcome to plan outside dates. Each weekend he failed to plan dates. He wanted to skip that part and jumped to demanding things that a friend should not be asking. Eventually it didn't work out. Some people asked me are you hurt or angry? I laughed so hard. I enjoyed the time we spent. But why should I be upset? That man never intended me any ill. I could never be angry with someone because we didn't match. Other times we can jumped the broom and that person is not mature or not even ready for the things we might know to be right. Why be angry with a man or woman if it doesn't work out? Sometimes people are doing the best they can. I learned that he didn't have his father in life. He had other things that prevented him from being a guy that was pursuing a long term relationship. That's not a reason to be mad at anyone. Thank God that you learned early. Thank God that you didn't enter into a relationship that would end in pain. So date light. Don't carry expectations of marriage. Wait. Let time reveal his character. If you have your father talk to him. Let him hangout with your dad. If you date heavy or right away you think he's the one. Thats dating painfully. I used wisdom and I thought we needed to start small. I could see moving to fast is a sure way of a set up to have a bad relationship. That guy eventually learned that he didn't have what he needed to have a big relationship. I had reserves right away so I pushed for a friendship. I thought we could grow into something and we had fun but the friendship failed. Right now he is happy. I am happy. If he can't be a good friend why make him a key person in your life. If he is not growing with you. Don't think that marriage or anything of importance should happen. Courting and being light. You going to learn a lot while hanging out so keep it light.